What I’ve Learned About Blogging

What I've Learned About Blogging
Welcome to my new site design. I am so excited about it, and I hope you love the new design as much as I do. I want to share everything I have learned about blogging in the eight weeks since I started. And it’s a lot! {Ha} Blogging has been so much fun. I have learned something new every day, it’s a great creative outlet, but just like life, I still basically know nothing.
I started this blog as a place to start a conversation with other people. Yeah, nobody talks to me. It’s cool. I’m an only child, sort of (that’s a story I’m saving for Jerry Springer). I quickly learned that you couldn’t just throw up a blog and people will read it and comment. I learned very quickly that if you build it, they will not come. The movies let me down yet again.
What I've Learned About Blogging
Then there’s the fact that I am not tech savvy. At all. Not even a little. Apparently, there’s something called htmhell. It’s not fun. Well played internet, well played. I tried to load a free WordPress site and make a few changes. I googled this thing called “code” and got to work. My share button for the Facebook ended up in the middle of my header pic. Just like my life, it was a hot mess. I hired someone to build me a site. They usually built websites for businesses but it was inexpensive, and I didn’t know what I was doing. They asked me questions that I did not know the answer to, and we proceeded. It was janky. I found Smash Creative, and they built this site. I don’t know how to work it yet as this is the first day that it’s up, but it looks pretty.  Seriously though, Smash Creative has been great about holding my hand and walking me through every step so far.
I have been taking pictures of myself every day for a couple of years now. I thought that blog photos would be basically the same thing. I was wrong, so very wrong. I went out and took a few pics, loaded them on the computer, and was completely shocked! My photos looked nothing like all the blog photos of all the bloggers I had been following for years. After dancing around in the middle of my little town while someone took my picture, this was what I had to show for it? It turns out that lighting, angles, and location plays a big part in how your photos turn out.
After the initial shock wore off from seeing my photos I knew it was time to come up with a solution. I downloaded Photoshop and watched a video on Skillshare. Problem solved. Wrong again. The video I watched was 30 minutes long. He started with a flawless model and proceeded to change the shape of her face, draw on more eyebrows, plump up her lips, and eliminate stray hairs. I had obviously watched the tutorial from Vogue. I tried taking notes, but this guy talked fast and was saying words like layer and clone. After 3 minutes I was confused. Nonetheless, I opened Photoshop determined to make my photos better.  After 4 hours of butchering the photos, I just went out and took them all over again. Now I get what Tyra Banks meant when she said Photoshop was expensive and she was talking to models! On a side note, if I decide to go back to college, I will major in Photoshop. You need a degree to work that program.
What I've Learned About Blogging What I've Learned About Blogging
Next came something to write about, another reason I started this blog was that I wanted to start sharing my story. Like so many others I have gone through a little trauma in my life, so I wanted to reach out to people and let them know they weren’t alone. Opening up and being vulnerable was a lot harder than I ever thought it would be. Once I started sharing my feelings, I felt a little shame. I had survived. I made it through stronger, and I had found the light. So many others have not been as lucky. Who was I to feel bad? Who was I to feel pain? I am slowly making peace with the fact that it’s ok to feel my pain. Although I made it through and I have a great life despite everything, I can still acknowledge the pain. Just because I feel pain doesn’t diminish the fact that others have gone through more severe tragedy or feel much worse pain. We are all in this together as human beings.
Now when I go out, and people ask what I do I tell them I’m a blogger. The reaction I get goes from amusing to insulting. I’m used to mixed reactions because of the whole pimp cane (read about that here).  A couple of “men” have giggled and said they could start blogs too. I encouraged them and told them that they should do just that. I had one person suggest that his traveling for work was so interesting that I should blog about that. That would solve my problem of something to write about when I don’t want to discuss my feelings. {Ha} Most people want to know how I make money. I don’t. It’s a passion project. Why does everything have to be about money? Full disclosure, I have made a total of $17.45 in the eight weeks since I started blogging. I am putting that in a trust for my sons future. I started this blog because I wanted to. If it leads to something, cool, if it doesn’t, cool.
What I've Learned About Blogging


Another thing I have learned, just like these pictures, blogging is not a day at the beach. These pictures were taken at a man-made beach. I mentioned this location to someone and said it was on a lake. Nope. It’s actually a river. I learn something new every day, and that’s the best thing about this journey. After being “retired” for so long, I needed a second act. I hope that through this process I can bring some value to your life by sharing my story and offering a new perspective. Or at the very least bring some amusement to your day by offering up my tragic tales that always seem to have a funny ending; because one thing I have figured out is how to laugh at myself. So here I am running a blog the same way I run my life, with no idea what I’m doing, but I’m doing it anyway.
What do you guys think of the new blog design? Be gentle, I’m still updating it, and it might take me a minute. Don’t forget to subscribe to get my post delivered right to your email.
Photos by: Sherika Mathis Sims
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  1. Well done hun. And what A great read as well. Good on you for tAking the leap into the unknown. Cant wait to see more 💋

    1. Thank you, sweetie! I appreciate you so much for stopping by to check it out! I also appreciate you for all the inspiration you give me! You yourself posted something that really struck a nerve with me. At the beginning of the year, you said you were going to step everything up a notch. You have not disappointed. I am just following your lead.

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